nanny break-up
i was just telling some people about how much we like our nanny and how glad we were that she decided to stay after she tried to quit (see post titled "almost lost our nanny"). then today - while on her paid vacation - she texted:
"I have some really terrible news. My eldest son Juan fractured his knee and is in a cast. He is my babysitter and I have no one else! Plus he can not be home alone for too long. Needs lots of help just getting around. I am still on vacation. He has a cast. He will be like this for 8 weeks! You are going to have to find a new Nanny. Without Juan there is no one to care for Izzy and Matt. Camp is over. I am reaching out to friends to see if I could help you find a Nanny for Monday. I just cant leave my son when he is hurt like this . I hope you understand. I will need to care for him until his cast comes off. In eight weeks."
in 8 weeks, maki wouldn't remember her anymore so we're not even going to ask her to come back. her excuse seems valid but whether this is real or fake, she's just not meant to be. i can't bend over backwards and try to please her with the fear that she may leave us. forget it. i'm not going to cry over this again. i'm sure this happens a lot. when i attended a mommy group, the facilitator kept mentioning that the nanny we have now will not be the only nanny that we'll have. i thought to myself "no way. once we find a nanny, we are going to keep her until maki is in school." guess what - she was right. i just need to deal with the nanny break-up(s) and move on. nannies are temporary and mik and i are the stable, permanent fixtures in maki's life. we will find another nanny who will not keep trying to quit over text, is willing to babysit after hours / weekends if needed (will be paid), doesn't pressure me on breastfeeding, doesn't gossip about her previous employers/kids and doesn't worry about every little thing. mik is home this week because the nanny is on vacation so at least we can use all week to do interviews... timing is almost too perfect. hmmm.
"I have some really terrible news. My eldest son Juan fractured his knee and is in a cast. He is my babysitter and I have no one else! Plus he can not be home alone for too long. Needs lots of help just getting around. I am still on vacation. He has a cast. He will be like this for 8 weeks! You are going to have to find a new Nanny. Without Juan there is no one to care for Izzy and Matt. Camp is over. I am reaching out to friends to see if I could help you find a Nanny for Monday. I just cant leave my son when he is hurt like this . I hope you understand. I will need to care for him until his cast comes off. In eight weeks."
in 8 weeks, maki wouldn't remember her anymore so we're not even going to ask her to come back. her excuse seems valid but whether this is real or fake, she's just not meant to be. i can't bend over backwards and try to please her with the fear that she may leave us. forget it. i'm not going to cry over this again. i'm sure this happens a lot. when i attended a mommy group, the facilitator kept mentioning that the nanny we have now will not be the only nanny that we'll have. i thought to myself "no way. once we find a nanny, we are going to keep her until maki is in school." guess what - she was right. i just need to deal with the nanny break-up(s) and move on. nannies are temporary and mik and i are the stable, permanent fixtures in maki's life. we will find another nanny who will not keep trying to quit over text, is willing to babysit after hours / weekends if needed (will be paid), doesn't pressure me on breastfeeding, doesn't gossip about her previous employers/kids and doesn't worry about every little thing. mik is home this week because the nanny is on vacation so at least we can use all week to do interviews... timing is almost too perfect. hmmm.
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8:23 PM
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